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Build an Extraordinary Relationship

I support couples to have the relationships they desire.

The fact is that when your relationship is rubbish, everything feels rubbish. Often in relationships, the same patterns play out again and again, but it can be impossible to see them (let alone change them), when you are living them. My role is to recognise the pattern, understand why it is happening, how it is impacting your relationship.  I support couples to create meaningful change in their relationship by working therapeutically to increase awareness of the pattern that unfolds in the couple dynamic and how individual patterns of behaviour may be contributing to the relational pattern.   

The old paradigm of compatibility-- or ‘we must not be right for each other’ doesn’t fit in my practice.  If we can get to a point where we are connecting on a heart-level (this means peeling back layers of protective behaviours and learnt patterns and leaning towards a willingness to be vulnerable), then we can grow to have the relationships we desire.  I support couples to better understand themselves, each other, and how they interact with the world so they can navigate life and partnership with more love, ease, joy and abundance.

I’ve worked with couples on the brink of separation as well as couples who are still in the honeymoon phase’ but want to know each other better and communicate more deeply.

COUPLES THERAPY CAN SUPPORT YOU TO:

  • reconnect after a crisis event or ongoing conflict,

  • shift old patterns of relating or communicating,

  • increase awareness of how you can support one another better as a couple and,

  • improve the quality and wellbeing of the relationship and the family unit.

COUPLES + RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING

  • "Without the support from Biannka, I am certain we would have ended our relationship. We were just so stuck in anger at each other from the past, and even though we loved each other, we couldn’t find our way out. Biannka supported us to understand the cycle we were in and what was REALLY happening for us so we could change it”. BP & CP

  • “If you’re thinking about attending therapy for support in your relationship, don’t hesitate. We spoke with Biannka before we made our appointment and both felt pretty comfortable with her on the phone…but I was still nervous. During the first session though, all of that dropped away. Biannka allowed us to feel at ease and we were able to discuss some really hectic things that we had been battling with. By the end of the session, I was surprised at how much better I felt. Biannka is such a great support for us and is great at reminding us that we have to do the work, so the therapy works! LD & MR

  • “Biannka’s approach is compassionate, kind and she doesn’t let us get away with any BS. We have found our sessions with Biannka to be so helpful for our relationship. We have such a better understanding of why each of us do the things we do – the things that used to drive us crazy. Biannka supported us to learn how to communicate with each other in a way that allowed us to hear each other! I’m not sure where we would be if we had not sought out the support from Biannka – probably still at each other all of the time and really unhappy” SG & BT

  • “I decided we needed to go to therapy so my partner could learn from someone else how he was creating such unhappiness for the both of us…. Cringe… Turns out there was some pretty poor behaviour coming from my side that was hurting my partner and causing him to shut down. I’m so glad we went to therapy. We both learnt so much about how each of us were hurting each other and why and how to turn these things around. Thank you Biannka”. KB & ET

How it works..

I offer three options for couples therapy— couples therapy, couples coaching and intensive couples therapy and couples coaching.  

I start all new couple therapy clients with an initial two-hour session. At the end of this session, I will give you my thoughts on how I think it is best to proceed.

This also allows you and your partner the space to discuss if I feel like the right fit for you, without a big commitment from the very start.

If you decide to work with me, I will then require a commitment from couples in regards to the number and regularity of sessions, in order to create a real and lasting shift.  This is hard work. It’s not a pill. You have to want to do it, but it is possible to heal, and I would love to support you to create that change.

Option 1 - Couples therapy

Intensive couples therapy is for couples on the brink of separation. You feel you have tried everything and nothing seems to be giving you any relief. We deep-dive into the underlying patterns of your relationship, and uncover how your individual traumas and behaviours are manifesting in the relationship and keeping you from connection.

I will support you to understand each other better, address what isn’t working, and build your relational esteem so you can transform your relationship. You will need to commit to come at least weekly at first.

The fee for service for the initial couples session is $300 for 120 minutes. 

Ongoing, the fee is $250 for 90 minutes and $180 for 60 minutes.

Book initial session

Option 2 - Couples coaching.

Couples coaching is for couples who are doing well enough, but know they can be better. You might feel like you need to address some patterns of communication or deepen your connection. These coaching sessions mainly focus on understanding where you may be missing connections, as well as practical ways to improve your relational skills so you can continue to foster and grow your love, intimacy, and connection.

For couples coaching, I will want to see you at least four times, and at least once a month.

The fee for service for the initial couples session is $300 and will be 120 minutes. 

Ongoing, the fee is $250 for 90 minutes and $180 for 60 minutes.

Book initial session

Option 3 – Couples' Intensive - a 1-2 day intensive therapy experience

Are you looking for a deeper couples' experience? Or are you grappling with doubts about whether your relationship is worth saving? The 1 or 2-day Couples’ Intensive session framework includes 6 hours of dedicated work each day.  This concentrated program revolves around a comprehensive assessment of your relationship dynamics, pinpointing the ineffective strategies that may have taken root over time, often stemming from learned behaviours in childhood.  As the name suggests, this program is intense.  It offers an opportunity to accelerate your progress in a way that's both impactful and transformative.  Depending on how long you have been stuck in the dynamic causing you pain and disconnection, you may not feel like you are back in the honeymoon phase, however you will know if you want to continue in the relationship and what you need to do individually and as a couple to build your relationship to the one you both desire.

If you reside further away, we have accommodation available on the property which can be built in to the cost for the intensive.

Should you desire ongoing support, we can seamlessly transition to follow-up sessions, either online or in person, to ensure you stay on track.

Cost starting at $1030

Enquire about the Couples’ Intensive

Or if you want some additional support just for yourself, you may want to look into my individual therapy.

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